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I was compared a lot with my sister in the past. She was the perfect child- getting high grades in every subject and her record is filled with extra curricular activities. People often said that I should be more like my sister. Specially, in my own family, my parents often praised my sister as the role model that I should follow. I didn’t have any special achievements nor was I a friendly child towards others. I was stressed for a long time and often locked myself in my own room and cried alone. I used to believed that I was an useless child. Luckily, I got accepted into my dream high school and found a new hobby- which is learning a new language, so I got rid of the feeling of being useless. However, the memory of being compared to my sister still affected me until today. I cared too much about what others think of me, I feel paranoid when standing in the middle of the crowd and I never share any details of my personal life to my parents. All I want to show them is my academic achievement.

I can’t understand why my parents keep telling me that I was picked up in the trash but the reality I wasn’t. The feeling of being left out hurts but I just can’t say it out loud.

My parents never say bad words to me except for 'a burden’ (mom said that) when I was careless or broke something (which means, not so often) and I did angry but I had the courage (and frustration) everytime to keep asking her till the end if she was sure I was really 'a burden'. But I won it all so I never mind that, I am too scared to get hurt so I always try to heal myself fast.

I was hurt by the verbal bully from my family, especially my dad, and now he still considers me as the filthy trash in the house. However, he doesn’t know that how I act in front of him is the result of how I was treated.

From back then until now, I always knew that my parents love me but didn’t understand why they still verbal bullying me and my sister, especially my mom. Even the little things can make my mom angry and make her cursing at my sister. My little sister was really sad, disappointed at herself and believe that my mother’s words are the truth.

© 2017 by The Twist

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